Life Is In A Constant State of Design

Two full weeks of Jan 2020 are behind us and in case our paths didn’t cross yet I want to wish you:

Happy New Year!

I hope you had a good start to this decade, to this year, to this week and this day – as you read this.

You might not know this, but there are a couple of things that happen almost every New Year that I don't like.

I don't like the slogan "New Year, New You".
I don't like "New Year's Resolutions"
I also cringe whenever I get an email telling me what I need to do to have "The Best Year Ever".

Sometimes my brain goes into overwhelm thinking about all those things that apparently I should be doing because who in their right mind, want to miss out on having the best year ever…

It’s not that I don’t understand that these things are aimed to motivate– I totally do.
But instead of getting motivated I feel resentment and/or fear (otherwise known nowadays as FOMO).

Have you noticed that even if this does inspires or encourages at first, after a few weeks (maybe even around now) this motivation is fading away? That there’s a niggling feeling that the same happened last year but here you are again pretty much back where you started last year.

It's easy to fall into the trap that, in essence, tells you you're not good enough.
You need a “new you”, because last year’s you is not good enough.

The reminders are everywhere: on every signage as you walk down the street, multiple ads on your social media feeds and dozens of emails from everyone and their affiliates telling you what you should buy or what you should be doing.

Please don’t fall into that trap and remind yourself:

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the you that you are.

I love Joe Pilates' metaphor of architect because life is in a constant state of design.

LIFE IS IN A CONSTANT STATE OF DESIGN

This means you have, at all times, the power to redesign it.
Make moves, allow shifts, do more, do less, say no, say yes.
It means you can decide for yourself what works for you and gives you permission to see that what might have worked for you before might not be working for you now and vice-versa: what works for you now might not work for you at a later time – and that it’s ok. It’s life. I guess what I’m trying to say is that life is a process and it’s the process that matters!

It’s in the process you’ll find how to do things and the focus to make things better. And it’s while you’re making things better that you find the results and successful outcome that you are looking for.

I’m not against setting goals.
Having goals, a vision, is important because that is your inspiration.
If you have a goal, a vision, you can start figuring out the steps you need to take to get to that goal, to build the life you want, to do the things you love doing, but, what most people forget is to fall in love with the process.

Life is about the journey. 
Falling in love with the process is what gets you results.

And in case you wondered,
Pilates is the same!

Starting Pilates begins with inspiration.
There are steps to take to start but the real value lies in the process, in the practice.

This is where you find the results and reap the benefits.

Aoife.