You're Not Meant To Go It Alone🌸
Let me start by saying this has been a week that constantly felt like going up-hill against the wind.
Maybe it wasn't that different than other weeks during this past year, but
I felt it more and that's what counts.
My March MATness FB lives went MIA and the weight of these undone things was heavy.
Aoife! Where have you gone?
Aoife! What happened to March MATness???”
ASKED NO ONE.
Yet, I felt the weight of these questions...
Nothing happened. Everything happened.
There are, of course, 'explanations'.
Things happened, things changed, things shifted (yet again).
My son went back to school, there's my father in law's health, there is a bunch of other stuff concerning my mum, our house etc.
For sure I had way too little sleep, I didn't eat properly and had way too many cups of coffee... But that’s not the point.
It's not the point because I KNOW YOU KNOW what it’s like.
- I know you know what it’s like to want, really really want to do something and then it doesn’t happen – despite your conviction, despite your commitment, despite your full heart and soul in it.
- I know you know the guilt and anger you feel with yourself when that happens.
- I know you know the blaming yourself and doubting yourself inside for not making good on your word.
- I also know you know the advice to "give yourself grace" and that you should try to forgive yourself and love yourself, give yourself the time you need (yada yada yada).
Soothing ourselves can feel like a cop-out.
Somehow, despite others telling you "its ok" and you trying to tell yourself "never mind", the internal feeling of guilt, shame, anger doesn't dissipate and can even get stronger if we add the "failure" to love and forgive ourselves. You can end up feeling defeated. You want to quit and give up.
Getting "back on the horse" can be harder than we imagined.
And if the horse throws us to the ground (again) it can feel almost impossible - a mammoth effort to take on ...
We don't always have the mental and emotional intensities for it.
I've been there. I'm sure I'm not the only one.
And what I have learned is that it's so much harder to do this alone!
But it goes beyond that.
WE ARE NOT MEANT TO GO IT ALONE.
We are an inter-personal social-relation dependent species.
We are built - physically, mentally and emotionally - to connect with others.
We are designed to be part of a group that give us safety, support, help, comfort, encouragement.
SO TODAY I WANT TO INVITE YOU TO CONNECT!
I'm looking forward to connect, reconnect & move with you! Lets make it happen 🌸.
Much love, Aoifeღ